Do You Let Others Help?

You know, asking for help is not always usual for women; we are programmed to be the “mother” of the family and to do things for others. But now I was learning how to ask for help when I needed it. I was always “strong willed”, or “stubborn” as my mama would say.

Now, I was a reader, most any book I would read and get caught up in the story. Especially Nancy Drew! I love a mystery. So a lot of times when I was asked to do something, it wasn’t that I did not want to do it, but that I was reading and did not really hear what was asked, or I heard and it did not register. So, mama learned to say my name first to get my attention and then ask.

I have learned that sometimes God gets my attention also, but not just by calling out my name. Going through the trials of cancer certainly did that!

So now being in the hospital, I wanted to know everything that was going on. What each procedure was for. It was not that I really wanted to learn those things, but since it pertained to me, it was important. We learn when it is important, or serves our purpose. So I learned; how to clean the incision area, how to empty the drainage lines that ran out of me like a Borg invasion.

I also learned how to ask for help. I learned that being “stubborn” and wanting to do things all by myself did not work well with recovery. I needed a helper, at times several helpers. David was my biggest helper during all of this, and still is to this day!

Finally I went home and started to learn how to ask for help. This was a new thing, but I remembered something from what my mama had taught me, or tried to teach me. (See mama, even things you think I did not learn, I really did. I might now have shown that I listened and heard, but remembering the things you said helps now)

I remember that there are times when God sends someone to help, and we must let them, because they will receive a blessing for doing what God asks, helping and loving others. So by someone not letting another help, or do God’s work, we are depriving them of their blessings. So, remembering this, I now always try to let others help. It still does not come naturally to me, in the small things, but I am trying to do better.